Today, I am reflecting on break ups, and the meanings that I give to them. Usually, I need to make the other person wrong in order to avoid feeling all of the pain that I feel at that moment, but it never really helps it go away. I still feel my body tighten around my words and my thoughts, and it never really brings the freedom that it promises! If I allow myself to believe that everything happends for a reason, I begin to open up to the question, and I ask myself what are the reasons for this break up? Next, I ask myself what can I learn from this, and how can I do this better? During these moments, I notice that the feelings begin to shift from the feelings of persecution to feelings of curiosity, excitement, and feelings of anxiousness to know the answers to these questions. Since this new way of looking at break ups provides me with positive feelings about myself and my future, I "choose" to look at them in this "new light!" So,this leaves me with a few questions for the reader. What ways do you look at break ups? Do these ways make you feel more empowered or do they make you feel badly? How do you take care of yourself after a break up,and can you find the silver lining in them? Please, send us a response and let us know what you think of this post.

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Have you ever felt a gripping sensation that was so strong that you had to look around to see who was holding you back? While looking back, you discover to your dismay that there isn’t anyone there. Well, I have felt this, and this is one of the ways that fear has shown up in my life. In my life, fear has shown up as a protective force that tries to keep me from changing. Change creates a state of unknowing. This state keeps the body from feeling safe, so, fear shows up and says: “hey wait a minute; I like things the way they were!” Fear has kept me from growing. After having a lot of experience with fear, I have learned to use fear as a helper! I use fear as a compass to tell me if I am on the right track!

It is a wall between me and a new world of possibilities. What often gets me in trouble is when I act like fear isn't there! During these times, fear becomes its strongest and takes over the situation. Until I realize that this is going on, I am powerless against it! Once I realize what is going on, I begin to ask my fears a series of questions. What is the worst thing that could happen in this situation? I ask this question over and over again until I can figure out what I am actually scared of. When I figure out what I am actually scared of, I realize that things aren’t so bad, and I can have the things that I want! This is only my experience, and I encourage each one of you to discover how fear manifests in your life. Take the power away from its grasp!

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